msblahms wrote:

tasman1 wrote:

msblahms wrote: you should change the topic title to "The age of loneliness is killing me"

, just to ask you,,, who will give you a glass of drink once you can not use yourself , who will hold your hand once you start dying ??????

i guess if i cant use myself i wont be desiring a glass of wine nor do i care about someone holding my hand, for me i agree with valerie its just a state of mind its up to you how you look at things that is why i never felt lonely to the contrary i desire to be left alone most of the times

Cool , if you like it that way , hope you stay alone forever , good luck with that

i dont need luck for that i have lived my life this way so its bound to happen

realpizza wrote: I'm so lonely
I'm Mr. Lonely
I have nobody
To call my own

- Akon

Don't quote my ringtone

val i liked your post very much,it summed up everything in a jiffy well not quite in a jiffy ,but still a lovely post!

Do what I do, buy a new trakfone every year that comes with triple minutes and includes 500 minutes.
Or just buy one every other year or every few years. I buy one every year simply because they do come
with minutes and rarely do I buy more than one more pack of minutes per year.

I have a landline and that is the phone I usually use. The mobile phone is good for emergencies or when
I do need to make contact when I am out and about.

The trakfone's have smart capabilities too, you can connect online, etc.

You know what, you come into the world alone and you're going to leave this world alone.

age of loneliness is NOT killing me, i thoroughly enjoy my time by myself!
And -

tasman1 wrote: Can We name 5 neighbours on left , 5 on right and 5 across the street

we don't even have that many neighbors to name!!

i have got neighbours either side,both are all students as Oxford is mainly a centre for studies........

but when i do see someone popping out or going in and i happen to be there,i do say a hello..thats as far as it goes

if i bump into someone whilst shopping ,will be a good natter for sometime then you just need to get out
enuf is enuf

sometimes i guess you need to be alone,,it isnt a bad thing,means you can think things over,do your stuff blah blah blah,
who wants people in their face 24/7

socializing is good once in a while,as long as those beers are chilling,,,you listening marcel?

apart from that as Val has said ,we come alone,go alone so nothing has changed ,,,everything remains behind.

,,,,,,,,,we come alone,go alone so nothing has changed,,,,,,,,,,,,,

that is pure crap , fake

A group of friends checking their smartphones while hanging out. Almost everyone on the subway with their eyes fixed on their gadget’s screens. A couple laying together in bed with their iPhones in their hands. People with their devices up in the air taking pictures of a concert. And I could go on. Technology, and especially smartphones, is ruining society, making us disconnected from others, interacting with our devices instead of with each other.
Fu.k that, it is sick

but tasman dear technology has made our lives so much easier,for starters if it wasn't for the computer no one would be giving their views in this forum,never mind clicking ads!
if it wasnt for planes i wouldn't have been born in the UK nor would you have got to Australia

we have to thanks techno for alot of things yes i do agree people do spend alot of time on their gadgets but then that can be an impulsive behaviour/disorder, call it what you will,not everyone is like this.
Alot of poor people have got nothing ,not even a phone,people in so many countries still lead a traditional life they were living hundreds of years ago................
the west has progressed into a new era and we have to keep up with it ,
people do take the piss but each to their own i say...

in your other posts you mentioned your car broke down,that's an invention,you caught a bus home,that is also,everything nowadays is connected and part of our lives whether we like it or not but we can choose to omit these things from our lives if we want and lead a very difficult life which would be unthinkable for the majority.

man strives to perfect ,,,please and enjoy,no one wants a hard life.

Started this topic for one reason ... how hard is to admit . I am lonely

Most people in the world can at some stage admit things like i am poor , i am old , i am sick , i have a problem with partner , job problem and million more problems..... but most will never admit I am lonely
Why ?
My opinion is ....To admit that , one see it as admit one is a failure.... but that is wrong . alone is not a failure , one must cut that out of the mind
i blame technologies and social media for that

I think the reason why some people are lonely but do not admit they are lonely is
due to pride. They don't want pity. Loneliness is not a disease. As I stated earlier,
it is a frame of mind.

Most of us have grown up believing we need fulfillment from other people in order
to not be lonely. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Look at these two people:

Person One: I am alone. My husband died some years ago. I miss him every day.
I see him in everything. I cry every day. I am very much alone. I have no one to
talk to. I don't enjoy life any more.

Person Two: I am alone. My husband died some years ago. I miss him every day.
I see him in everything and I smile. I live every day to the fullest. I have lots of
life to live and lots to give of myself. I volunteer at the shelter three days a week.
I adopted a dog and we go on walks every day, often stopping to chat with neighbors.
The church has a sewing class every Tuesday evening and I have finally learned to
sew. I am making quilts for the needy. Next week I am going with the church group
to the big museum in the next state over. We're going to make an entire weekend of
it. Lots to do when I get back because I must prepare for the church bazaar. I'll
be entering the roses contest this year and I think I might win the grand prize....I am
great at gardening. I will make a note to straighten the bird houses before winter.
Oh I almost forgot to log into ClixSense today....I got to do that and make extra
money to buy dog food for the shelter.

tasman1, there is a big difference in loneliness, how people cope with their loneliness,
depression, and clinical depression.

Technology has not resulted in making people lonely.

Life isn't fair. Shxt happens. It's how we deal with the shxt that matters.

yep Val you are right,you either deal with it positively to eliminate it or to make it less stressful or treat it negatively and stress yourself more as a result...

what makes you happy,do it,want to get involved with others do it, we have a choice and no one will make that choice for us nor is it fair to blame anyone nor anything for the state we are in.

i understand tasman's point of view and know where he is coming from but like i said each to his own and how they perceive things in their own way.

at the end of the day there are natural actions which all humans need to do in order to survive,breath,eat,sleep poo and let off wind

then there are those things which we can choose to do to either enrich our lives or become saddos

It's like the old man that bitched at his wife every day about everything.

His drawers were not clean enough
His food was not done enough
His bed not soft enough
etc

One day she died.

That's about as lonely as it gets in my opinion. Now he has to bitch at himself
every day and to top it off, he has to wash his drawers himself, cook his food
himself, make his bed himself.

That's why old people get lonely after the spouse dies. It's because the other
one has no one to bitch at any more.

valerie wrote: It's like the old man that bitched at his wife every day about everything.

His drawers were not clean enough
His food was not done enough
His bed not soft enough
etc

One day she died.

That's about as lonely as it gets in my opinion. Now he has to bitch at himself
every day and to top it off, he has to wash his drawers himself, cook his food
himself, make his bed himself.

That's why old people get lonely after the spouse dies. It's because the other
one has no one to bitch at any more.

That is correct Valerie , but what about this study

In 2010 the Mental Health Foundation found loneliness to be a greater concern among young people than the elderly. The 18 to 34-year-olds surveyed were more likely to feel lonely often, to worry about feeling alone and to feel depressed because of loneliness than the over-55s.

Young people problem ? Young people present an idealised version of themselves online and we expect to have social lives like those portrayed in the media