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Arvind9 wrote: Time has changed a lot,what you are talking about these values are only there in small towns and villages, in citys family has less meaning than before some of your own family members and relatives will work against you for their own selfish motives,I dont have any relationship with my brother because he cheated me and my mother it had legal implications I could have gone to the court against him but my mother was against it,so we decided to break ties with him seems it made no difference to him some of our relatives were also helping him we have broken ties even with them,nowdays your own family members and relatives can be your biggest enemys because of their selfish motives an outside friend or person could be more reliable just for the simple reason that they dont have intrests clashing with you.
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hyldig wrote: Rajukurup , read what you wrote to Arvind9 . Should he not be identical to his brother since they were riced by the same mother and father ? I broke connection to my mother , she probably enjoyed the jailtime as much as the 10 000 $ she stole from me + a lot of other things she did against me I got her convicted for . People are born he way they turn out to be , it fot nothing to do with how they were riced .
rajukurup wrote:Arvind9 wrote: Time has changed a lot,what you are talking about these values are only there in small towns and villages, in citys family has less meaning than before some of your own family members and relatives will work against you for their own selfish motives,I dont have any relationship with my brother because he cheated me and my mother it had legal implications I could have gone to the court against him but my mother was against it,so we decided to break ties with him seems it made no difference to him some of our relatives were also helping him we have broken ties even with them,nowdays your own family members and relatives can be your biggest enemys because of their selfish motives an outside friend or person could be more reliable just for the simple reason that they dont have intrests clashing with you.
these all arises due to communication gap between members of the family . according to me no one is born mischievious it is the circumstances and way he is brought up makes the man vicious . if proper care and advice is given by the family he can change a lot
realpizza wrote:hyldig wrote: Rajukurup , read what you wrote to Arvind9 . Should he not be identical to his brother since they were riced by the same mother and father ? I broke connection to my mother , she probably enjoyed the jailtime as much as the 10 000 $ she stole from me + a lot of other things she did against me I got her convicted for . People are born he way they turn out to be , it fot nothing to do with how they were riced .
I think you mean "raised"? Took me a while to figure out what you mean by "riced" there.
Arvind9 wrote:rajukurup wrote:Arvind9 wrote: Time has changed a lot,what you are talking about these values are only there in small towns and villages, in citys family has less meaning than before some of your own family members and relatives will work against you for their own selfish motives,I dont have any relationship with my brother because he cheated me and my mother it had legal implications I could have gone to the court against him but my mother was against it,so we decided to break ties with him seems it made no difference to him some of our relatives were also helping him we have broken ties even with them,nowdays your own family members and relatives can be your biggest enemys because of their selfish motives an outside friend or person could be more reliable just for the simple reason that they dont have intrests clashing with you.
these all arises due to communication gap between members of the family . according to me no one is born mischievious it is the circumstances and way he is brought up makes the man vicious . if proper care and advice is given by the family he can change a lot
Why we were bought up by the same parents ,there was no communication problem my parents favoured him they always said he was very capable I was the black sheep I should have gone bad you are talking the opposite but It did not affect me ,he is doing very well in life he is a IT professional from Bangalore there was no reason for doing what he did ,you are talking as if he is a kid who needs advice he is above 50
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Arvind9 wrote: That is where you are wrong there is a stage in life when a woman comes in a mans life that his wife she comes from a different background she changes everything, my mother always used to say when a woman comes into a family it all depends on how good is her background her education thats what makes the difference how quickly she can adapt to her new life,I still remember my brother got married and she did not stay long with us she left for her parents place maybe her parents fell short of giving her good education and all the things you mentioned,on the contrary my wife always stayed with us maybe her parents gave her wrong advice
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hyldig wrote: Yeah ??? If I had listened to the socalled counsellers I would have ended up as a violent abusive junkie that wouldent work like my mother that never got any money after day 3 . My sister is an exact copy of my mother . I am a self made man that most definately is not missing money I have always worked hard and am not a junkie ao alcoholic . I have always hated those 2 , I according to both the black cheap bbut I am proud of being the black cheap .
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rajukurup wrote: Today is world family day . family is the most important aspect for the success of any individual a good support from the family can make an individual to rise to the position that he longs in earlier periods joint families were prevalent but now nuclear family has taken its place .in a joint family people could share more with their members and this created a positive psychological effect in them but in a nuclear family this sharing is less and people are more selfish there are exceptions and it depends on the attitude of parents I would say family is the backbone for the success of any individual. members please share your opinions of a good family