Pedminacar wrote: Hi
My grandmother have a type of cancer in her breast, but she can't get quimio because she also has an infection in the foot. The thing is she doesn't want to be treated, she needs some pills to destroy the infection so she can be treated with quimio, but she throw them to the garbage can, because "they are bad for the stomach". In the other day it was programed to go to the hospital to take some blood samples, but she didn't want to go! My father doesn't know what to do. My grandmother is illiterate, she never went to school.
Does anyone know any solution to this? Did this happen to some of your relatives?
Help would be appreciated.
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hyldig wrote: I would suggest to treat her like we did with my own Granmother . Use brute forse . Ensure she takes her pills wile you are watching and escorte her to the Doctor and Hospital and ensure she keeps the appointment . It might sound harsh but by my Granmother it was the only way to make it happen . Best wishes to all of you .
valerie wrote:Pedminacar wrote: Hi
My grandmother have a type of cancer in her breast, but she can't get quimio because she also has an infection in the foot. The thing is she doesn't want to be treated, she needs some pills to destroy the infection so she can be treated with quimio, but she throw them to the garbage can, because "they are bad for the stomach". In the other day it was programed to go to the hospital to take some blood samples, but she didn't want to go! My father doesn't know what to do. My grandmother is illiterate, she never went to school.
Does anyone know any solution to this? Did this happen to some of your relatives?
Help would be appreciated.
You could have her legally deemed as not mentally stable to make health decisions and it would be in your parents/family control of her health situation.
Or
You can let her be choose to do what she wants with the rest of her life.
hyldig wrote: My Granmother was the same way . I was the only 1 she trusted for many years . If your father tries finding someone to watch her and make sure she takes her pills etc , he might be able to convince her that that the person can be trusted as much as him . I found 1 to help me with my Granmother , she didn`t like or trust her the first few days but it changed since she found out I did . It might work if he tells your Granmother the helper tells him everything and he will be very dissapointed if she gives the helper a lot of trouble . That made my Granmother accept the woman I found to help out . It is a very difficoult situation to try to give advice in , but if your father can get someone to be trusted by your Granmother that would be the right way .
Pedminacar wrote:valerie wrote:Pedminacar wrote: Hi
My grandmother have a type of cancer in her breast, but she can't get quimio because she also has an infection in the foot. The thing is she doesn't want to be treated, she needs some pills to destroy the infection so she can be treated with quimio, but she throw them to the garbage can, because "they are bad for the stomach". In the other day it was programed to go to the hospital to take some blood samples, but she didn't want to go! My father doesn't know what to do. My grandmother is illiterate, she never went to school.
Does anyone know any solution to this? Did this happen to some of your relatives?
Help would be appreciated.
You could have her legally deemed as not mentally stable to make health decisions and it would be in your parents/family control of her health situation.
Or
You can let her be choose to do what she wants with the rest of her life.
The thing is if we let her do want she wants, it is very likely that she would have to be in a bed 24 hours, very hard for my family monitoring her, since she lives in a remote area (rural area). I don't know if forcing her legally would work, because she refuses to be treated anyway, she doesn't want to go to the hospital. The last year she broke a bone, so she had to stay at hospital, the doctors had to tie her so she couldn't leave the hospital. Don't know if tying her in the hospital to be treated would be legal.
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valerie wrote: I worked in health care most my life.
Elderly people should be treated with respect and as they adult that they are.
There are alternatives. For starters, a home health care aid. Someone that will be there at least a
few hours a day to help with meds and activities. A professional health aid will most likely know how
to communicate with your mother, after you fill in the blanks.
You might be surprised to find that your mother looks forward to the health care aid daily visit.
Your father needs to focus on trying to have his mother make the decisions. It sounds like she is
the type of woman that is set in her ways and does not want to be told what to do. So the last thing
anyone should do, is tell her what to do.
It's very difficult. There are online support groups and forums that are free. You might browse some
of those to see what is working for others in similar situations.
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