valerie wrote: I worked in health care most my life.
Elderly people should be treated with respect and as they adult that they are.
There are alternatives. For starters, a home health care aid. Someone that will be there at least a
few hours a day to help with meds and activities. A professional health aid will most likely know how
to communicate with your mother, after you fill in the blanks.
You might be surprised to find that your mother looks forward to the health care aid daily visit.
Your father needs to focus on trying to have his mother make the decisions. It sounds like she is
the type of woman that is set in her ways and does not want to be told what to do. So the last thing
anyone should do, is tell her what to do.
It's very difficult. There are online support groups and forums that are free. You might browse some
of those to see what is working for others in similar situations.
nice advice may be because you worked in health and has a kind heart also I am happy that you are back to the forum to assist the members keep going happily